♦ August 28, 2012
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This poem speaks to my heart. It points out the mistakes made when children become fatherless.
Thank, Patricia for reblogging the poem, and understanding its message!
You’re welcome. I sat here and marveled at your sensitivity to the situation of a fatherless home. I see so much of it happening today, and I hurt for the kids who will probably never know what it means to have a father. One of the highest compliments that I can pay my own father is that he stuck in there through thick and thin. He was a great man in own eyes, and I loved him dearly.
Your poem is beautiful. Keep up the good work.
I am greatly aware of situations with fathers based on the men I’ve talked to. I am both a teacher assistant, and someone who believes certain men’s issues have been forgotten or left on the back burner. I believe fatherhood is one of the most important subjects there is. I know from personal and professional experience. I understand my husband’s children are hurt, and yet he made the hardest decision any man ever had to make so his youngest was not abandoned. You are right. It is a very important issue, fatherless homes. How do we amend the problem? Do we continue to battle fathers in custody battles or raise the child support? How do we encourage grown adults to act like adults and not attack each other to the point children are manipulated, and a part of their childhood abused? Sorry, for the long response. It is a cause very close to my heart.
You do not have to apologize. I felt in your poem, that you were talking from experience, and that is perhaps the main reason why it touched my heart, deeply. I agree with you. The antiquated laws concerning who has the rights to the children are long outdated. I have seen so many young girls go through a deep tailspin, because they are not allowed to love their fathers. The problem starts with pointing fingers at the other as being the guilty party. If we, as adults with a certain amount of intelligence, could only realize that there is never a one sided wrong. Wrong happens on both sides. The wife who refuses changes and then looses her husband, and the husband who gives up out of frustration. Because we are human beings, we must learn to be tolerate of one another. There are times when a marriage sours, and it is irreparable. In such cases, the goal of both parents should be to insure the children or child that they are secure. When this fails to happen, the child suffers. Unfortunately, too many women learn too late what bitterness and scorn causes in their children’s lives. They wake up as the child is walking out of the door, uncontrollable and full of hatred for both the father and them. It is a sad situation, and it is one that raising child support payments will not cure. The ideal answer is joint custody for both adults. I see what happens here in Germany, where I live, momentarily. The women receive sole custody and many of the fathers suffer greatly. I know of one young man who has not seen his two sons for four years. It is not that he has not tried, but there is so much hatred between him and his ex wife that she refuses to obey the court orders. And here in Germany, the youth courts will not do anything against that, because they don’t want to upset the child at home. It is terrible.
It has been a joy to exchange with you on this topic. Like I have said before, you touched my heart, and I could feel the pain of the many children who do not have a father.
I wish you much success in your writing and that it will achieve those goals that you want it to achieve, to help fatherless children. Maybe your blog will open the door to a new way of thinking. I certainly hope so.
Good morning Rebecca,
Micki Peluso wrote a comment about your poem reblogged on my blog. I have told her that I would like you to make remarks on her comment. Would you please answer her back?
An in-depth poem that so many can relate to–well done!!
Good morning Micki,
It is a beautiful poem and I have asked Rebecca to respond to you on my blog. It comes from her heart and I felt it.
Micki, thank you very much! I am so happy you related to the poem!
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