Be Careful With Your Words

patgarcia ♦ March 28, 2012 ♦ 3 Comments

Your words may not mean much to you, but I have found out through experience words are valuable weapons you choose to use to either build up or tear down the human spirit in people.  Words spoken in anger, in hate, in envy, in jealousy are words, which destroy and kill the human spirit, and if you want to see someone fail, tell them how incompetent and inadequate, you think they are, and notice that I said (You think), and more than likely you will achieve your goal and they will fail or have a hard time struggling to get over failure. Why did I say, you think.  It is because the majority of the time we throw out words that described the way we see things without reigning in our emotions and deems our word choice as being the gospel truth.

Your words are about what you said and how you said it.  They are not about whether you told the truth or told a lie. Words regardless of whether they are true or not that are spoken out of arrogance and pride are cruel and create a tumor of hate and revenge.

Years ago, a musician who is a close friend of mine made a comment about me that surprised me.  He said, “Pat, I have never heard you talk bad about anyone in the band since we have been accompanying you on the road, and I know some of us make mistakes on stage.”

I looked at him and smiled when I asked him, “And what would it have accomplished if I had been critical?”

Smiling back at me, he said, “Probably the opposite of what you would have wanted.”

“‘You have answered your own question.” I said to him.

Over the years, I have had to practice what I preached. Since I am still living, I am still practicing, and since I am still practicing; I am still learning.  The more I mature, the more I see the life development of another person can hang on the words I say to him or her.  Learning how to use words = practicing how to live them within your neighborhoods with the people who surround you = Living those words, so your life makes a difference.

As John Donne wrote in Meditation XVII

No man is an island, entire of itself.

Every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.

Walk On Everyone.

Ciao,

Pat Garcia